I understand that it’s easy to fall into negative patterns.
And it’s easy to get down on yourself.
I have depression in my family and I know you might as well.
So I certainly understand that there are going to be times where the negativity seems to outweigh the positivity.
But I think as a community, especially as writers, we’re maybe kind of in our own heads more than a few other professions…
As writers and authors, we need to learn how to celebrate our wins and learn from our losses.
Instead of the loss being a thing we post about on Facebook and being the thing we share 5 to 10 times over.
Instead of sharing that this terrible thing happened with my launch or that Amazon sent the wrong file.
Instead of saying woe is me, woe is me.
Instead of all of that, we need to learn what we can do differently in the future.
We need to focus on what’s in our control related to our losses.
We need to post about the lesson we learned.
It doesn’t help others where you make them feel bad over the bad thing you experienced.
You’re just passing your negative energy over.
Instead, make it about helping them not have their own loss.
And on the other hand of the coin…
When you have a win as small as possible, and it doesn’t even matter how big the win is.
You take the win.
You sell an unexpected book.
You take the win and you post about it and you get excited about it.
And if you have an even bigger win…
Don’t move the goalposts. Don’t move the goal.
Just say, “I’m excited. This is awesome.”
Feel grateful about it.
And that’s gonna make a way bigger impact on your life and the community.
Thanks for reading!